When most people talk about resilience they think about the ability to push through events that aren’t positive, to push through potential setbacks: to maintain their momentum towards an outcome that they’re working towards, and to maintain their emotional state without being deflected from it. This is absolutely a large part of what we mean by resilience.
The ability to make sure that we maintain our course, or our emotional state, or our beliefs in our ability to get where we need to go (whether it’s in the short term or the long term), without our purpose being deflected from, reduced, diminished or indeed turned off entirely by potential setbacks that we encounter as we move through life. That’s definitely one aspect of it.
The second aspect of it is grit. A lot of work’s been done on grit in the positive psychology movement over the last 5 or 10 years and particularly by a brilliant academic called Angela Duckworth. Grit is specifically the ability to sustain interest and effort towards your long term goals. It’s very much a part of resilience and it’s very much part of what is delivered to people when they spend large amounts of time in positive emotional states.
The reason why we put so much emphasis on Zest in everything we do, and we have always tried to bring more Zest into the lives of everybody that we work with, is because it gives such advantages in terms of quality of life and in terms of our outcomes in life. A large part of the reason for that is the part that resilience and grit play in Zest. It’s obvious isn’t it, if you manage to sustain your interest and your effort towards goals that are important to you then you’re much more likely to get them and not only that you’re much more likely to have a good time while you’re doing so.
The third element of resilience is emotional stability. This has massive implications for all our relationships – whether we’re talking home or work. Our effectiveness as an influencer, in sales, in leadership, in team memberships, in family relationships – all of these depend on how resilient we are. Somebody who’s highly emotionally stable in this way will also maintain their positive emotional state in the face of influencers which would deflect other people and turn them from feeling happy, confident, excited, energetic to somebody’s who’s feeling discouraged or depressed. When you are deflected from a positive emotional state into a negative emotional state by some ghastly thing whether it’s mild or massive, what happens is you fall out of a high performance state and drop into a low performance state. You’ll remember the acronym CREAM for Creativity, Resilience, Emotional Intelligence, Analytical reasoning skills and Motivation. All of which are negatively impacted when we drop out of a positive state into a negative one.
Emotional stability is a massively important part of resilience. Indeed in the first Zest blog I discussed the impact on the effectiveness of a person’s leadership if they are prone to emotional hijack. This means they are not emotionally stable so they are prone to actually dropping out of resonance with their followers into dissonance and how 5% of that in a lifetime will undermine the 95% of good.
So we have these three aspects of resilience: pushing through setbacks, showing grit (sustaining effort and interest towards our goals) and emotional stability. The combination of all three means we are always able to maintain ourselves in high performance states which in turn means that both our effectiveness and our ability to influence others are maximised.
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